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Grey hair or baldness?

Grey hair or baldness?  Funny what you think about during the Christmas holidays!  But interestingly the bible has something to say about both….

Grey hair (my happy experience)……is earned!  Click here if you don’t believe me!

Yeah baby!

Here’s the deal.  As we get older, the pigment cells in our hair follicles gradually die (boo!).  When there are fewer pigment cells in a hair follicle, that strand of hair will no longer contain as much melanin and will become a more transparent color – like grey, silver, or white – as it grows.  As we get older, fewer pigment cells will be around to produce melanin.  Eventually, the hair will look completely grey.

People get grey hair at any age. Some people go grey at a young age – as early as when they are in school, whereas others may be in their 30’s or 40’s before they see that first grey hair.  How early we get grey hair is determined by our genes.  This means that most of us will start having grey hairs around the same age that our parents or grandparents first did (check ’em out, quick!).

Some people think that a big shock or trauma can turn a person’s hair white or grey overnight, but scientists don’t really believe that this happens.  Just in case, try not to freak out your parents too much!

Baldness?  Well, it’s an idolatrous practice according to Lev 21:5.  Or a terrible judgement in Jeremiah 48:37.  And Elisha was ridiculed by kids in 2Kings 2:23!  I’m beginning to prefer the grey hair thing…….


Just checked out my Dad who has a delightful thatch aged 68, not thinning in any way.  But like my mum, he has white hair.  Ok, presumably that’s how it goes when the grey fades.  I’m cool with that!


Things my Dad taught me…

I really enjoyed Amy Loizides post on ‘things her dad taught her’, so thought I’d do the same.  Difference between my scenario and hers is that it took me till about my mid-30’s to finally appreciate what my Dad taught me. Doh!  Also, her Dad (Lex – here’s his blog) is only about 3 years older than me……so that’s a bit weird!

Dad and I, circa 1970

Anyway, we (Amy & I) were chatting the other day and we agreed that there’s not enough parent-honouring going on these days.  My Dad has taught me a lot of things, so here are a few (not in any particular order)…….some profound, some practical, but all shaping and significant:

Dad, you taught me….

The value of money – it wasn’t thrown at me as a kid, and I had to earn some of it.  Dont get me wrong, Dad is incredibly generous with cash, but this helped me appreciate that hard work has its rewards.  There were caveats too.  ‘The more you have of it, the more problems you’ll have’  I seem to remember him saying.  Having a great attitude to cash (ie. it not being your God) is the way to go.  You can’t serve both God and money!  It’s true.

The importance of respect – if you learn this one early on, you will ‘earn favour with God AND man’.  True also.  As a youngster, just watching how Dad accepted folk for who they were spoke volumes.  Reminds me of someone else!

To hit a nail straight – there’s a knack to this!  When I was a kid, I proclaimed to my parents that I would be ‘getting a man in’ to do the DIY.  How wrong I was!  (although Dad, you have been that man a lot!).  I’ve hit a load of nails since then, and technique is king.  Hitting them squarely isn’t enough.  You have to strike with a slight push, and be ready to adjust mid-swing for a really true connection.  Geek!

Who Jesus is – quite important this one!  Modelling a life that follows the God-Man is what Dad has done.  Not perfectly, but very well.  The good-news-made-flesh is our model, and watching Dad live his life in response to the God-Man’s commitment to him is tremendously releasing and encouraging.

How to love my wife – the best form of security a child can wish for is to be raised in a secure context of married parents that visibly love each other.  Hard work?  You bet.  But seeing how my Dad has led our family, loving mum and meeting her needs, has been unquestionably shaping for me.  Great job!

How to make wise choices – made a good number of dumb one’s over the years.  Even after hearing priceless advice, it’s no guarantee against making poor choices.  Always look at a scenario from different angles, work through the implications, make a decision.

To listen twice as much as I speak – God gave me two ears and one mouth, so he must have meant something by that!  I’m still learning this one, but appreciating the value of healthy communication on all sorts of levels.

To just whistle when annoyed – Dad always whistles when he’s a bit frustrated!  I found myself doing this recently too………chip off the old block!

Dad, thanks for all those things.  I’m beginning to appreciate you and them at last!